10 November 2008

“Hope never abandons you; you abandon it.”



I have long had a fascination with abandoned houses, especially those houses in which nothing has been taken, everything inside sitting still as if the owners are expected to return any moment now. More so, abandoned houses, especially if they are still burdened with belongings, beg a story. What powerful force caused a person to just up and abandon their house and all inside it?



While I have never abandoned as much as a house and all that I own, I have found that in particular situations, I am prone to abandon something else much more precious: my heart.



Some might experience it more often than others, depending on the society in which you live, but we have all witnessed people in desperate need, and I think I might be correct in saying that we have all at some point, looked away.



We look away to avoid being a witness, to cut the emotional cord, keep ourselves from being moved, and perhaps, feeling something deeply. We quickly scramble to shift our thoughts elsewhere. We don't want to feel the guilt or the burden of any responsibility to be a "Good Samaritan" and aide whomever we have seen in need.



What are we so afraid of? Are we afraid that should we not look away, that our hearts might be moved, and that we just might interrupt our schedule, our pattern of life, and help?



Then there are excuses of, "I don't have time", "I don't have any money to spare", and so on. Perhaps we even wonder if the person we see in need is in such a position because of accident or because of choice. If we help them, whether our help will be appreciated, or our donated change used appropriately.



If we say we don't have time, could we not make a little time? While we cannot control the rate at which time runs, we can control how we spend our spare time. If we say we don't have money, could we not give our time instead?



There is a story I have been fond of ever since I was a child. About a time of offering, in which a rich man gave a great sum of money to the needy, though the amount he gave was only a mere fraction of his wealth. Then came forward a woman who had next to nothing, and yet, out of faith, she gave all she had. Though she had far less, the act of the woman is an act far more commendable than that of the wealthy man.



In my life, I have often have been guilty of looking away, abandoning my heart when I do not want to feel sympathy or guilt. And yet, who am I to stand in the face of need and not give? I know now that I will never be satisfied or proud of a life spent protecting what things I have, and helping only myself.



We all can aide those in need, in different ways, in whatever ways we are able of. No amount of time, no amount of money is too small to give. Do not abandon the emotion, the power of your heart, and always know that even small acts can cause great effects. Give a smile, give a hug, give a listening ear, give faith, give a warm meal, give peace, give love, and give hope for the good of humanity.



When you see others in need, such as homeless on the streets, do you tend to look away? Have you ever stopped and reached out to someone in need? If not, what do you think stops you from helping? In what ways do you give to others? Would you like to give more, or do you think whatever you may do or give already is enough? Other thoughts?

Title Quote: George Weinberg
Photo Credits: www.flickr.com/photos/kbauman & www.flickr.com/photos/13899979@N00 & www.flickr.com/photos/10330100@N06.

62 comments:

Tuesdai Noelle said...

Good Morning S-C :o)

These photos go along excellence with the emotionals of this post.
Good Morning S-C :o)

“I have found that in particular situations, I am prone to abandon something else much more precious: my heart.” ~ S-C

I AM indeed guilty of one of MANY faults for hurting my heart...many. The fear of rejection, I think, is way mainly what drives me into those feelings…inner warily. I try to avoid showing outer emotions in public. Whether I’ve hurt by another OR have indirectly done something that might hurt myself. The quote I’d say that would apply to me most towards that;

“Strength of character means the ability to overcome resentment against others, to hide hurt feelings, and to forgive quickly.” ~ Unknown.

But in those situations, I always find myself ready to give a smile, laugh to, word of encouragement to someone who needs it in that moment. I draw strength from helping others find theirs.

Hope your day goes cool. Peace :O)

J.Yo said...

this post sent me to deep thoughts.. with the amazing photography and all..

why have one choose abandoned their hearts? i'll try to answer that later, because i have yet to find the answer myself..

i have ever stop to help, kinda. but i'm never willing to remember..
I think it's better that way, because leaving your help as it is, without remembering, it will not then become the matter of money, sum or what not.

It'll become the urge of your heart at that moment to help.
and it'll become a piece of goodness attached in your heart, whether you can recall it or not.

Franco said...

I love abandoned houses!!!
and yes sometime I look away to homeless people when I can't give anything.
how I help?
everytime we go to wallmart I always put all my change in those children with cancer glass boxes.
is not much but I give what I can.

DaisyChain said...

A truly beautiful post, as usual.
And one quite close to my heart.
I don't know,
I always try to help as much as I can. I recived a lot of help from friends, family, professionals and strangers at the toughtest time in my life, and now try to give back wherever and whenever possible.
Sometimes it just doesn't feel like enough though.

On a private level, I try to keep myself to myself and don't often admit to a lot of things. I get disheartened easily, and instinctively choose flight over fight.
But I'm working to change that.

I think hope is important. If you don't have hope, what do you have?

Cate said...

When I see people on the street, I never look away on purpose. I often give punks or homeless people on the street a little bit of money, because I feel sympathy for them. It may also have to do a bit with my paranoia. I don't want anyone to think bad things of me, and that includes the people on the street, and the last thing I want to seem is stuck-up and snobbish. I want to convey to those people that it doesn't leave me cold when I see them. I'm also friends with one homeless guy. And the point is, those people really are grateful when you share with them, be it whatever.
I think we can still learn a lot from homeless people. Through them, I have also learned to become more grateful.

♥ fashion chalet said...

It is sad when one loses hope. We must all hold on to it.

I plan even my outfit "photo shoots" it's really fun. Sometimes, I'll be half asleep, in bed, and I'll spring up because I just thought of the perfect shoe or accessory to complete my look for the next day....

I'm impressed that your entries are all on a whim. You're great at it. :)

J'Adore Fashion said...

amazing pictures, love the abondoned house and the picture of the legs--great taste for pictures that expresses the topic, great work S-C.

its sad when people loose hope, i have a point in my life when i have lot hope, but thanks to the love of great people around me, i snap out of it!!!

&heart
Stella
hope my heart work :-P
Thanks for the bithday wish dear, mom say BIG THANKS!!!

Jess said...

Very moving post.
Abandon can be seen as a bad thing, what with the derelict houses and all. It must also be a good thing. We are always going to need to "abandon ship".
Perhaps it's okay to abandon your heart once in a while.

Lisa said...

COLESTER.

that picture of you is AMAZZZZZZING.
i wish i could of commented.

it is breathtaking.

ah.
things have been HECTIC here!

THANKS FOR YOUR BEYOND BEAUTIFUL WORDS + LOVE.
they mean so much to me.
for real.
especially now since i feel like i am going crazy.

how are you feeling?
so woried.
i am sending my love + wishes your way.

lovesssssssu.

x.

Lump said...

amazing post.

I have many times found myself abandoning my heart, but then I remain lost for quite sometime and I struggle to find my heart again.

I ride the train to and from work and often give my spare change to those who need a train ticket. I'm a sucker for those who are stranded. :(

CaraMia ♥Hippie Couture♥ said...

susanna, what an awesome post! we could all use the reminder to keep an open heart and give to others in need when feeling a prompting in the heart.

Jessica said...

hm.
This pinched my heart in the right place.
The picture of the girl with the adidas shirt is moving !

btw, that lawyer buisness card is hilarious ! ahaha :))

Cherina said...

extremely interesting blog. I would've never thought of this. This is amazing, and soul-moving. =]

Anabel said...

incredible pics and text, as always

Zanita said...

How delightful is your blog! Much feeling and a beautiful way to put perspective on things. Ill be back!
zanita

Miss Karen said...

I've tried to help out as often as I can although I think there are a few factors which do stop me sometimes - I don't like being swindled and I don't like my help being used for non-positive means. I guess these two factors are based on cynicism and suspicion - there are a lot of people who 'pretend' to be suffering just for a few bucks and it makes people weary, myself included.

i.d. said...

S-C, you're so thoughtful it lifts my spirits and makes me want to be a better human being!

Each week, I try to send a little note, letter or postcard to a friend I haven't spoken to in awhile, just to let them know I'm thinking of them.

P.S. You should check out Design For Mankind if you haven't already, they're launching the super sweet Free Encouragement project.

Elizabeth said...

It is so hard to know what to do. I have had experiences where I have been scammed by people pretending to be in need. Because of that many times I do look away, but that only makes me angry at myself for stereotyping, because you truly cannot know someone's situation just by looking at them. It seems like the human mind naturally wants to categorize so it can my hard to fight those sorts of thoughts.

The Stylish Wanderer said...

I havent read this post yet, cause Im running around frantic to try to get someone to drive me to an appointment Im going to, but I just wanna say, your photography (re: to post below this one on your flickr thing) is amazing, and I do not know if thats because the subject (you) is so raw and gifted or because you have amazing photography skills.
I think Im going to have to make you my bestest friend and then do a post about you on my blog.

Stompface said...

That story about the rich man and the woman who had next to nothing is so true.

We did door knocking for the heart foundation a couple of years ago, and we would go to these HUGE houses and the people there would give us nothing, then we would go to this little house with a student renting there, who would spend ages scrounging up all the change he had and ended up giving us like $30.

It's really amazing how true that is.

I had a friend, the same evil friend I told you about before haha, who used to like point and laugh at homeless people. I couldn't believe it, it just used to make me so sad, and then she would make fun of me for feeling sad about it. Wow, I don't know why I was friends with her for so long.

I have talked too much again.

x

AusAnna said...

these photos are amazing, abandoned houses have such a spiritual beauty to them. love it.

My Fashion Frenzy said...

What a thoughtful post. You really opened my eyes with this one!

Nature Grafitti said...

“I have found that in particular situations, I am prone to abandon something else much more precious: my heart.”

beautifully said :)

it pains me when i see other people turn a blind eye to difficult situations or times of need, although it would be hypocritical and a downright lie to say that i have not done that myself. My favorite quote is Gandhi's "Be the Change you wish to see in the world", a statement which i try my very hardest to live by. We as single people have to realize that we cannot solve the problems of the world, but we can do the best we can with what we have to bring about the greatest and most powerful change possible.

Hot Bot said...

Aren't we all guilty of turning our cheeks? Looking the other way? Oh gosh.

muchlove said...

Brilliant post.
I believe even the smallest act of giving needs to be encouraged - which is what you have done here.
I like doing the small things ( giving small change, donating old clothes, smiling to a stranger) in hope that it does make a difference to someone in need. Perhaps it's a bit selfish on my part too, because I want that "I've-done-something good" feeling without actually making any sacrifice. Perhaps. It's something to think about.

xo

clarecatastrophe said...

Your blog is really lovely and probably my favorite blog to read. This post has to do a lot with thoughts I've been thinking lately, and the pictures really help to drive the point home. Thanks for always writing such inspiring words!

lacouturiernyc said...

yet another beautiful post SC! :)

and i'm about average height, but my feet are ridiculously small. size 5 does tend to look a bit unproportional too, so i just have to choose wisely with flats! :)

xoxo,
La C

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Miranda said...

:(
i'm guilty too
this relates to your excuses post
i've given away food to the homeless but i guess i feel skeptical when it comes to giving away money

Songy said...

argh. this hurts. I don't get to see anyone in deed as I just drive around a lot. When I was in Paris I did see lots of homeless people. I can't tell you how I feel. Sometimes I feel numb. I do have compassion for those in need. I help as much as I can but I must admit I haven't done much since I got back to Perth. This is a strange place and I don't get exposed to 'poor' people. Good of you to bring this up. I will have to think about donating some soon.

COURTNEY said...

wow, i love your blog. this was a great piece.

KATLIN said...

I've avoided looking at homeless people on my way home from work. There's about five or so of them always in the same place when I go home. I usually don't make eye contact because some of them seem dangerous and I don't want them to start and keep bothering me... as bad as that sounds. But I do try to smile and look those that I feel are genuinely nice in the eye. If I have food on me, I try to give some of it to them instead of money.

♥ Marta ♥ said...

Hey you ...
That is a very interesting thought... I try to give to others what I can ... I believe in hope and one should fight for it in order to keep it ... I believe hope is what makes the world go around.

A very touching posts

ashley said...

s-c, you are amazing at making people dig deep within themselves on things that they perhaps also look away from.
i always worry and try to imagine the story that goes with a person putting their hands out for help. i am one that has never been able to look away and have thus locked eyes with many souls that break my heart.
i think even the kindest smile if nothing else is giving a lot. people need love and kindness, if there is other help someone can give that is wonderful. But looking at a person, lets them know at the very least that they exist, that you can see they are a part of the world and worthy of a moment of kindness...
love your blog, love the images, love the words, thank-you sweetie:)
x ashley

Nita-Karoliina said...

i remember when i was a little girl, we lived place where was near many abandoned houses, and with children curiousness we always went to see the houses, went inside...
great post!
xo

Paloma said...

You made me cry today :'( Sensitive day. The red house in the middle is really touching, makes me shiver.
Regards frm Spain, you gorgeous pics picker!

surimay said...

lovely post! very moving. makes you think a little more about how much value you place on yourself over others. i try to help, but now i'm starting to think i'm not helping enough :/

i think if people lose hope it is only because there isn't anyone to help and to hope with them. it's easier for people to stand on their two feet again when there's a helping hand. there's more of a drive i guess.

anyway, i love the pictures of the abandoned houses. i don't know. i think i just like decrepit things :P

p.s. took a look at your flickr. i like the flower crown you're wearing! you are BEAUTIFUL! :)

Kenza said...

The first pic is amazing !

Cate said...

You're getting better and better, S-C. You should write a book. Seriously, all your blog posts should be made into a book.
xoxo
Cate

CapuccinoB. said...

when i red this blog, i always just stare and think xD my brother thinks i've gone mad xD xD

xxx

Ivonne from Self Exposed said...

Loved the post!

Right now, I am about to reconnect with my best friend, we had been friends for like 7 years, then we fell in love, then we messed it up and then we just stopped talking to each other. It's been probably the most or one of the most difficult experiences of my life. Yet I let it go and just healed the whole thing by myself, but he is looking for me now, he wants to talk and maybe, just maybe, we can fix things.
It is probably the best relationship we will ever find and still, I had abandoned it... out of fear, and pride, stupid stupid pride...
I just hope it is not too late, or that at least we try...

I am sorry to read that you hurt your back and leg! But I hope you are much better now! I send the biggest "get well soon" hug!

Always a pleasure reading you S-C

Miss Woo said...

I'm going to read this post in detail again, but let me just say first amazing photos!

Jordi Gual said...

A great vision of the solitude Susanna..... : (

Savvy Mode SG said...

great thoughts! i think we can always give a little more but within our own ability.

GirlonTour said...

Awesome blog. I am going to get comfy and read some more

:D

Betsey said...

oh amazing post. i do feel as though i look away sometimes when someone is in need. i don't know if i could nail down any one reason...but i guess it has something to do with confidence. sometimes i'm just not sure if this person WANTS my help. i know it sounds silly- but i really don't have the highest level of self esteem and confidence. a lot of the time i feel pretty worthless and horrible. wow, i am sounding so pessimistic right now. sorry!

and as for the flickr yes i do have one!!! and i see from your last post that you just got one too- so excting! i am going to go add you as a contact right now. my user name is sweetsummerbreeze!

thanks for this post dear, its making me think a lot!

hope you are doing well!
xoxo, b

Petra said...

Beautiful beautiful. I have the same facination with abandoned houses, they are so intriguing, yet i find them so sad as well. I love houses and its upsetting to see them so mistreated.

I find that a smile can make such a difference. I try to smile at people i walk past on the street, in the foodstore, in my classes... it is amazing how someones face will just light up when smiled at. Truly inspiring.

xx Have a fun day!

Daisy said...

Wondrous post ! I too love the mystery behind houses left abanonded!

I think about who/why/when they left it always seems proplr can not remember the last time the house had life. I expect many hold so much history that only a few know of.

Leigh said...

This is such a fantastic post!! I am in the process for the second year in Denver, to collect warm items to pass out to the Homeless in person, not just dropping off to the local shelter, but reaching out to them in person and handing them something that we may take for granted. We all can find ways to help.

xx

D said...

I am so touched by this pos,it has really set a turning point in my life,i have to admit that i was that person once that just runedmy head,and not care because i didnt want to,that might seem awful but i just was thinking in my interest and not others,i will for the first time,donate my time and money on thanksgiving to the homeless and i will promise to remember all the words that you have typed in this blog,you have touched me,and i thank you so much for that,you are a beautiful person,god bless you S-C beautiful pictures.

Wana said...

check! u always do it right babe!

rachel said...

Hey S-C, you really know how to give us food for thought. I am guilty of looking away whenever people, particularly street people, look like they need help. I guess in the world today where anyone can be scammers and anything can be seen a ploy to bring you harm, we get jaded and just take the non-awkward and non-compromising way out.

But my boyfriend's good-heartedness has really taught me so much on kindness and compassion. I remember two major incidents where we were on the road and he stopped to get out of the car to help someone. Once was when he saw this dirtied old man lying in front of a restaurant.. despite my protests, he stopped the car and checked to see if the guy was okay. Another time was when we saw this guy on a bicycle scrambling for his things which scattered on the HIGHWAY after he fell off his bike. It was such a dangerous area and he thought to help that guy by blocking his bike from traffic with the car, then he put the hazards on and got out to help this stranger pick up the rest of his things. Unbelievable. These are things I would only think I wish I could do, but would never actually get around to doing. He is such an amazing person sometimes.

♥ R

Oh another time would be when he picked up a kitten at the side of the road (en route to their ranch), because he was "afraid it might get run over." It was a remote area and I thought he just used that as an excuse to get that kitty, because I particularly have no inclinations towards cats and would otherwise not let him get one. haha ;p

ryder said...

i love the title... before i read the post in dint reminded me on the things you wrote. well, thats because i have other things in mind that connect me with this title. but ill add it to it.
think that people dont "help" or look away from the ones in need, cause they dont want that to happen to them,,, so if that doesnt exists it wont happen.

cant concetrate as much as i would like to,,, hope never abandons you, you abandon it... im so mad... that is true. but hope is painnfull in a way... for what if never happenes. i mean the expectation u have or whoever? thats hurts... much more than the real life.

* Fashion Dreamer * said...

Another beautiful post. I love abandoned houses too, my friend took me for a drive through an abandonned estate yesterday, I should have taken pictures it was so atmospheric.

As for helping, I do always try to give what I can to homeless people, be it money or a bit of what I'm eating. Recently persuaded my company to support a local children's hospice though, which should make such a difference

Paloma said...

just dropping by... This post keeps being SO BEAUTIFUL

Ms Unreliable said...

I think we perhaps look away from people in need for fear that we can't help, or that our small donation by simply fund more of the problem, rather than being part of the solution.

This is where donating our time is crucial, whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen or even just stop to have a chat. Some people just want someone to listen and to hear their stories.

The Clothes Horse said...

This is such a touching post. I relate far too much. :( I cut off my heart, I know I do and it really screws with you. I numb myself to others and then I get sadder when they're more distant...but I think I was hurt a lot as a kid and I don't know how to trust people.
Also, this reminds me of how my mother, sisters, and I would go looking in abandoned houses and new homes being built. If we were locked out they would push me through a window...we never damaged anything, we were just curious.

jess said...

I tend to look away too and sometimes I feel bad but sometimes I wonder if the money I oculd give them would b used on something good like food or housing or on other not so great things

sueper said...

Hey,
I've been ill - so have to catch up on your blog!
And yaey for the award

yiqin; said...

Brilliant post! I am scared of abandon houses though :/

Sydneydoll said...

i never really recognised the extent of hurricane katrinas devastation until the U2 & Green day video clip for the saints are coming.

i know that sounds silly but it really brought home just how bad it was.

PS: the killers album has leaked.
i see you like them :)
im listening to bond now
you have a great choice in music : )

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